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Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by nc87k5, Oct 24, 2006.

  1. nc87k5

    nc87k5 3/4 ton status

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    for our foster parenting was about discipline without physical contact, since it's against the law because a lot of these kids were abused by their parents. I agree to some extent but find it may be hard since that's how I was dealt with and I didn't turn out bad.

    Can anyone with kids give their opinions about this and ways they have found, without physical contact, to get the same result or better?

    I'm just curious to see how you deal with them.
     
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    Cold shower. Seriously. Jenn grew up with foster care kids and that's the only thing "physically" that could be done to discipline them.
     
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    How old is the kid?? When my stepsons were little(3-6), I would make them stand in the corner, holding a piece of paper against the wall with their nose. They hated that! After a while, all my wife had to do was make the threat. Now that they are teens, they get to trim grass with nailclippers when they screw up.
     
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    well, we haven't got any yet, but they explained that was not cool either.

    BTW, I hated that also, except my paper had a cicle in it and my nose couldn't drop out of it! I would have rather got my ass beat since it took a lot less time and didn't hurt as long.
     
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    it has to be hard when you can't start at day one. since my son was old enough to sit up on his own we have put him in a chair when he misbehaves. It worked at first because he physically could not get himself down. now it works because he knows that he is being punished. 5 minutes is an eternity in a childs world. Good luck. My mother grew up with countless foster brothers and sisters. She loves them all, but it adds stress to an already stressful situation.
     
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    If they are old enough to understand, exlplain to them the punishment for the crime. If they are little/to young to understand do the "no" and remove them from that environment. You could also remove something that they like, tv, woobies, etc..
     
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    I use the corner with our 5 year old and to be honest thats about the only thing I have found that works.He has so much that if I take something away he just finds something else.And since I have arthritis if I spank him it ends up hurting me worse than him lol.
     
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    hire another kid to rough em up. you didnt do, the other kid did! :haha:
     
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    We have a big mix of discipline... Spankings with the wooden spoon have been effective, but that's out for you.

    The most recent for my son is a jar of skittles. He gets 6 put in the jar per day, and when the jar is full, we'll buy him the Star Wars Lego playstation 2 game that he wants more than anything else in the world. As he misbehaves during the day, he loses skittles. If he has a meltdown, he gets none for the day. If he continues to have issues, the jar will get dumped out and he has to start over...
    That's worked for 2 weeks so far, but he's 6, and the concept is jusssssst within his reach.

    Timeout worked for a while. They had a designated place they had to sit, and it was really boring.
     
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    Soak their fingers in pickle juice with paper cuts on them, if they cry smack them with dill pickles.......The big dill pickles hurt the most and get better results.
     
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    Do you eat some of the skittles and feel really really bad afterwards?
     
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    No, I have a huge supply to draw from if I need to. :D

    But he gets the option of eating them or putting them in the jar with his six per day. Teaching him money management at the same time. ;)
    And that's on top of the allowance.
     
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    Maybe he'll learn to buy his own skittle and sneak them in piecemeal
     
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    wow, I think that is a great idea. I'll suggest that in class.
     
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    He's a slick kid, but he's too honest. He'd tell me what he's up to... but he's got 15 dollars saved in allowance. He's too young to get the concept of value, so he'd hand it all to the clerk for a $1's worth of candy...
     
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