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RANT on my little girls doctor!

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by MudFrog, Nov 15, 2004.

  1. MudFrog

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    My 10 month old daughter has had a lot of complications, some have corrected themself or been corrected by surgery but one of the problems that has not corrected itself is she will not gain weight very easily. She has a feeding tube through her stomach which we used for about 5 months untill she had her last surgery. The doctors then told us not to use it untill further notice. Well every other month they go through a fit where they decide to hospitalize her due to her weight gain not being satisfactory. As I write this she is once again in the hospital. Here is the screwed up part. When she goes in the hospital they do not do much to figure out why she won't gain weight, they just stick her on the tube till she gains close to a pound and lets her come home. We ask about the feeding tube and they say it's not needed at this time.

    Here comes the screwed up part, the Gatroenterologist came in and said he is required to tell us that if he see's fit he can require her to go to foster care because she won't put on as much weight for us as she does for the hospital. Now what the heck is with that?? /forums/images/graemlins/angryfire.gif

    Lets see here, she crawls around at home burning calories, she is on regular formula (per the same doctor) and is not on the feeding pump. While at the hospital she is on the feeding pump 24/7, on special formula and is not allowed to be very active. I'm going to be having a talk with the doctor as well as seek out a new doctor. One that will help solve the problem as opposed to band aiding it then blaming us when she is not suddenly cured..

    I'm so freaking mad right now, my wife (who is always at the hospital with her) has been balling for about an hour now. I swear the little hospital visits are just to get more $$ out of us. We could put her on the feeding pump at home but they tell us not to.

    Sorry for the long post. Probably boring to most of ya'll so no hard feelings if you ignore it.
     
  2. Jeremy_C

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    Thats exactly what I would do, along with probably paying a fine for Knocking the Fricking crap out of the Gastrointestional DR. I'd be puttin the beat down on somebody.

    Find you a new DR and talk to this DR's supervisors or somebody thats in charge of him, he sounds like bad news.
     
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    Holy crap, I'd lose my friggin mind if a doctor told me that.

    I'd seek out a new doctor ASAP. If for nothing else, a second opinion, and possibly, talk to a lawyer. You can try to learn the law yourself, but for something this important, and for this bunghole doctor to even mention it like that, it's worth getting the rounded knowledge of a pro lawyer. Not that the doctors lying, but he may misunderstand the law, or there may be other requirements or ways to prevent his "opinion". I can't imagine the law would allow for such arbitrary removal of a child from his/her parents. It would be like a legal form of kidnapping, the doctor could fabricate an opinion.

    I'd seek out a new doctor asap. If you have insurance, maybe they can help you with this, too. It's in their interest to solve the problem rather than keep paying for visit after visit after visit that does what you can do.

    And good luck, we're pullin for ya.
     
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    Your family is getting burned by an elitist, do gooder, do nothing DR. Get another DR! Its sickening when a family is going through so much stress and the DR only makes it worse. Like said before, we are pulling for you!
     
  5. 90blzr

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    Hey man, I know how ya feel...well...not my daughter, but a real close friend of mine. She is in the hospital every few months for one thing or another. Usually for 2-3 MONTHS at a time. She starts getting sick so they admit her in. She goes in, they give her things that she is NOT supposed to have, and then wonder why she is having bad reactions. She does okay for a few months and then back in again. What a joke.

    I think the worst one was when she was in for about 3 months. one of the meds she was supposed to be getting was only supposed to be given for a few hours and it was given for DAYS. Caused a hemotoma in her head/brain and had to have emergency surgery, shave her head and cut her head from forehead back about half wey down the back of here head. All this and the docs said...'we are not sure if she will have brain damage or not' BS. THEY FAWKED UP....THEY CAUSED THIS!! PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THE **** YOU AND YOUR NURSES ARE DOING!!! THIS ISNT A MONEY MAKER...THIS IS SOMEONES LIFE!!

    Granted I do not have what it takes to be a doctor, hense, I am not one! So it seems to me if you are gonna be a doctor and are gonna put yourself in the position of diagnosing and prescribing and basically taking someones life into your hands, you better pay CLOSE attention and make DAMN sure you know what you are doing!!
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    Another one, they give her insulin shots the other day...here sister called to see how she was doing and she couldnt even TALK!!! Went over there and found out they had given it to her. Well if they would have looked at the files from the last time she was in, they would have seen that she is NOT SUPPOSED TO HAVE ANYMORE INUSLIN!!! How hard is it to check back on some files, especially with someone with a history like hers!!

    I have NUMEROUS stories. This is nothing new, been going on for the last 2 years or so. She actually had a break before that for about 4 years until the transplanted kidney failed AGAIN. Otherwise this [censored] has been happening since she was born. And she is 23 now.


    Anyways, my thoughts are out to you guys. This isnt directed towards ALL doctors/nurses...but I have come to the conclusion that ALOT of them just dont take the time anymore to find out the REAL problem. They just like to 'cover it up' for the time being. Not sure if its cause they have too many patients or what, but damn, were talking about people's lives here and YEARS AND YEARS of med school!!!!!! I remember when if you said you were a doctor it was like 'daaaayyyuuummm...a doctor? (smart as hell) and now when I heard doctor its like 'hmmmmm....I wonder if this one has ANY clue of what he's doing?'


    Sorry for the long post, this kind of stuff just pisses me off. Anyways, good luck to you guys and I really hope it works out for you and your family.
     
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    Though I really hate to advise this, just because life is so litigious nowadays, but you should retain an attorney now so that he can advise you as to what to do to protect yourself now and in the future... if only because this doc fired the first shot and is apparently an ass.

    Then get another doctor, and find out what the problem is with the baby.
     
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    Scott-

    As stated, look for another doc ASAP. May want to go the legal route soon too.

    I'll keep a good thought for your daughter and you and your family.

    John
     
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    Man, if it isn't hard enough raising a little one with the health issues that she has been dealt, but now you have to deal with that fawkstick threatening to take her away from you for following his instructions /forums/images/graemlins/angryfire.gif /forums/images/graemlins/angryfire.gif.

    Definitely find a different doctor ASAP!!

    Good luck to you and your family there.
     
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    I have been thinking about this all day. I cant believe how this doctor is acting. Like you said, WTF is his problem?? He gives advice, you follow it, its wrong advice and YOU are getting screwed for it?!?!
    **** thats messed up!!!
     
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    Ok, I just typed an extremely long post and my PC locked up so now ya'll get the condensed version.. haha.

    We met with a social worker (the doctor would not meet with me today) and she said based on all the information there is no way they would take her away. We have attended every doctors appointment (including a once a week weight check, every single Tuesday since her birth), and proceeded in corrective surgery. She said that usually when someone is neglecting a kid they fail to attend any appointments etc..

    Everyone we have talked to, our church, my daughters pediatrician (not the doctor in question, he is one of her many specialists) and even the case worker think the case is a bunch of crap. We have people standing in line to testify for us if needs be.

    We were advised to file a complaint against the doctor. My wife does not want to but I do, you should not be able to pull this crap and not have concequinces. Especially since he accused us of this, he did not approach us with concern, he woke my wife up this morning and said "If your daughter does not start gaining more weight we are going to put her in foster care". My daughter has been gaining anywhere from 4-8 ounces a week. This isn't a huge difference but at least she is not losing weight. Although she did lose weight this past week, but we found out that she has some serious virus that give her massive dierreah and vomiting. So tell me how she is supposed to put on weight if her food runs right through her.

    Anyway, I appreciate all the thoughts, support and ideas. As of now we are not going to seek legal consultation quite yet (it would just be another bill to add to the stack) but if anything else comes of this we surely will.
     
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    I havn't been able to follow too well but my boss Tim;s baby has had a feeding tube for over a year and they use it exclusively escept when trying to teach her to eat
     
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    [ QUOTE ]
    We were advised to file a complaint against the doctor.

    [/ QUOTE ] You should take that advice. if you don't and later there is legal action, the first thing the opposing attorney will say is that you're making it up because you had the opportunity to file a complaint and didn't do it. So you must be lying and only going for the money against the poor doctor who was just trying to help you.

    Keep a copy of the complaint for your records.
     
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    Give me the doctors name and address and I'll bring some parts to you. I could run by his office and see if my tie rod will fit his fawking kneecaps. Sorry about your little girl, I'm sure everything will work out.

    You can just ignore me I'm having a bad week. /forums/images/graemlins/angryfire.gif
     
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    John, those are words of encouragement... I've had a rough week as well.
     
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    Hope all goes well for your Daughter.She will be in our Prayers. As far as Doctors go I do not Trust any of them. My Grandma just past Away. They discharged her from the Hospital on Sunday saying she was fine, That Night she was taken back to the E.R and died the next morning... /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif
     
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    I agree with skigirl, file a complaint ASAP. If you do nothing it will give the impression that the DR has done nothing wrong and will give him credability. He's taken the first step, all you are doing is dancing with him.

    Forgive me for sounding paranoid but there's been many cases where a social worker has told parents that they would never take the child away. But they often do anyway. Get everything in writing, keep detailed, dated notes on meetings so you have something to back you up in case the worst happens later.

    We are all pulling for you.
     
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    Good point Jeff makes, take good notes on everything as much as possible also.
     
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    Yes, very good idea. Thats what my friends family does. They have a binder/notebook that is ONLY for this stuff. Everytime they have an appointment, every time she gets medicication, dosage, doctor, etc they write it ALL down. How long she is admitted for, surgey's etc.

    They have a nice log of things once they get ready into the lawsuit more. Its kind of on hold until she gets better, thats is the main concern.

    Take notes of EVERYTHING!! You may think you are gonna remember everything, but with so many things goin on at once, its easy to block certain details out, etc.

    If you decide not to take legal action, no biggie, but if you do, its gonna be a great help for your case.

    Hopefully everything will get better soon and she can come home and everyone will be happy /forums/images/graemlins/thumb.gif /forums/images/graemlins/thumb.gif /forums/images/graemlins/thumb.gif
     
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    The doctor would not see us today for fear that we were mad at him /forums/images/graemlins/angryfire.gif

    We talked to a different social worker and nothing really came of it. We are all having a meeting tomorrow morning. I have had several suggestions made to us about what to do. As it looks we are going to file the complaint and go and at least talk to a lawyer. What kind of a lawyer will handle this kind of case? I looked in the phonebook but nothing really jumped out at me.
     
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    Re: attorney. Medical malpractice attorney is what you're looking for, which is usually a sub-specialty of Personal Injury. If you have any attorney at all, ask for a referral.
     

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