@#$)*)(@*$@# Brother in law\'s wife UUGGHH I could just about scream! 2 days ago, brother in laws wife calls to ask me if the girls are all set for school clothes, YUP was my reply, all set, probably more than enough she goes on to explain that her youngest daughter ( 1 size bigger than my oldest) has a BIG bag full of clothes that she outgrew, would I like them. No thank's I think were all set....... The story behind me saying no, is that EVERY time I get her hand-me-downs (which I am not to "proud" to use them BTW)..they are NASTY, stained, ripped, jeans with the cuffs coming undone etc.... so I would rather NOT have to throw them away myself...After all her husband is my husbands partner in the Trash company, doesnt he have a trash truck parked at home EVERY night? GEEZZZ... so anyway- John ends up at their house last night, low and behold, she gives him the bag of clothes, he comes home thinking he's done something great..... I open the bag, FULL of clothes, out of a LARGE black trash bag, 2 shirts, and 1 dress is something I would put my kids in......The other clothes are either from 1912, or stained to no end...... I look up at John and he shakes his head......I say " Do I EVER put my kids in stuff that looks like this?" his reply, "no dear" than WHY THE H*LL WOULD ANYONE GIVE ME CLOTHES LIKE THIS??????? Then she will say "does Gabrielle need shoes" well, HELLO I'm the one with the shoe fettish, WHY would my daughter need shoes?...... along with the fact that it is not good for your feet to wear shoes that have already been broken in with someone elses footprint (everyones arch is different)...but of course, in this bag are sneakers that you could not pay a person without shoes to wear.....UUGGHHHH more for me to throw away. It's not like I only let my kids wear Gap or Old Navy, they have other brands of clothes as well, but they do NOT wear clothes that are ruined. They would look like Rag-a-muffins... I mean come on, isn't there some common sense in her head? It would be like me giving her some of my clothes, for god sakes, she dresses like she did in highschool, and she graduated in 1981... she still wears those jordache jeans for petes sake....her style, and my style, along with what I put my kids in, is TOTALLY off, is there some NICE way to tell her this..... other than saying "listen when you look at the clothes, and they should be turned into dust rags, please don't give them to me".... I weed through them, and the stuff that is at least wearable (though not by my kids) I donate to the local drop in center, but it should not be up to me to take her clothes there. at least when I give my girls clothes to a friend of mines daughter, I go through them first, and anything I wouldn't put mine in, I wouldn't give her...... WTF is wrong with her head. sorry I really needed to get that off my chest.