Many of you know the story of myself and the girl I love, Tshy. Well her mother is quite an alcoholic. She reall makes life hard for Tshy, and its always angered me. I want to talk to her(Tshy's mom) about it but I just don't know if I can help. I can't sit back and not do anything. I am so far away which makes it hard, but anyone have ways I can help things? I'm an abrasive person at times and its going to be a fight to not flip out on the woman. I know if I do she will shut down and not listen to me anymore. She just doesn't see how badly she hurts her daughters and how bad of a mother she is. Tshy's younger sister moved out and is living with a friend. Her mother is convinced its just cause that friend has a nicer home, she just refuses to realize she left cause her mother made life unbareable. She feels she can only relax or be happy when she has had a drink. In my opinion she avoids being a normal person by drinking. Worst is she has in the past year started having a boyfriend(she is still married but her husband lives in Florida away from them). The guy is REALLY bad news. He makes me uneasy, and I do not at all like him being near Tshy or her sister, or her mother for that matter. He has repeatadly stolen money and things from them and Tshy's mom just keeps forgiving him. As Tshy says, her dad has never been a good husband, and her mom is lonely, thats understandable and this guy is the one who has chosen to show her attention. She blinds herself to everything cause hes a [darn] con artist and giving her attention. He doesn't have a job, is married and whatever, he just lives off other people like this. I need to try and help her mom realize how horrible a mother she really is. She just won't believe what she does is so wrong. It hurts a lot cause Tshy is hurt by it and just wants to help her mom, I worry that she won't be able to leave when it comes time to go to college cause she will worry about her mother too much. I just can't sit back any longer and hear how much it hurts Tshy. Anyone ever dealt with an alcoholic like this before? My father was a drunk and he snapped out of it, my mom threatened(very seriouslly) to leave him and it woke his ass up. Been alcohol free for years now. That threat doesn't do crap to this woman so I don't know. Her husband has now found out about the relationship as well and threatened to press charges against them both. Oh and she does not work, she worked at a bar but all she did was drink there so her kids got her to quit that job. She lives off money her husband sends each month. Basically I really think she is quite depressed and needs counseling but I know she won't go for it, she has said so.