So I've an idea about how the government should treat this whole "issue". It's been my stance for a long time, even before the issue of should we allow gays to marry. Government should not be doing anything according to your marital status. If you remove all wording and references to marriage in government documents, IRS code, etc, the whole issue of having to define what a marriage is, goes away. There should be no more or less benefits, taxes, programs, etc, if your married or single. I know it would be a huge undertaking to wipe the laws clean of any reference to marriage, but I think it would be worth it. You should not need a license to get married, you shouldn't get a different tax rate because your married. Marriage is a sacred thing between you and your partner, a declaration of your faith, devotion and love to your partner, whoever that is. Your should only need the approval of the god you worship, if any, the church you profess your faith to, if any, and your conscience, and that's it. Government should not be invovled in marriage, period. I remember the first time I did my taxes in 1983, I asked my Dad why there was seperate tax rates for married and single people. The answer, "That's just the way it is", or more like, he didn't know. I still don't know, I've read and listened to certain explainations, but none of them make any sense. Mabey they did in the 1700's, but certainly not now.