So, we have amongs't us 5 kids of our parents, one syblling, who is a total deadbeat. There's five of us kids, me being the youngest at 36. The deadbeat is 40. We are thinking of having an intervention to straighten out his life. But, the question is, is it going to far? Are we, the other sybllings, just going overboard. The big problem is, he's causing alot of undue stress to our wonderful parents, mostly my mother, who is now 68 and has pretty bad osteoporosis. Steven, that's the deadbeat brother, most recently, lost his job (for the 10th time) 10 months ago, and after accepting another free 6months of unemployment from the state, he just then started to *look* for a job. He's so slooow too, he says he's looking, but he like puts a resume or application somewhere, and waits for a call. Anyhow, it been like 4 months with 0 income now, and he ran out of money, hadn't paid june rent, didn't pay july, and when the law says they can evict on the thrid month the complex he's in of course initiated the eviction process, he whined a cried to my mother, who bailed him out, again. My father is through with him, he's helped him in more ways than we can count. He's ungratful, just the other night he was saying how unhelpful, ugh, my mother is! What, she just paid your rent, jackhole! Anyhow, he asks us for money fairly often too, that gravy train stopped many many years ago when we all realized we were just being enablers, but my mother still breaks down when she thinks he's gonna end up on the street though. He gets in trouble with the law all the time, he spent last 2 months of 2005 in jail for his third DUI, he got busted 2 years ago for buying pot from an undercover agent in detroit, in my dads's car! (My father bought the car and steve paid him for it, since steve couldn't get a car loan by himself), then says it's no problem for them. Yeah, my mother got in a car wreck last month (guy rearended her) and the cop proceeded to interrogete her with questions "do you have any illegal drugs in the vehicle ma'am". Like she needs that. He's just an idiot, most notoably, he has a huge attitude problem. I call it entitlement syndrome. He thinks he's entitled to a good job, he thinks he's better than minumum wage. He goes into job interviews and asks me why they ask him all these "questions". Uh..steve...that's what a friggin job interview is, they ask questions. When he has a job, he's bitching about how everybody else isn't doing anything, and he's the only one working, and he deserves more money ...etc.... Yeah, right. My father called on one of his friends who owns a electrical harness assembly place and got him a job there, he got fired within 3 weeks, they noted his attitude as no. 1 problem. Then proceeded to tell us, who already heard the story from the owner, that he didn't do anything to provoke getting fired. The owner, has a different story, he was swearing at the production manager, trying to tell other employees what to do..etc..etc... He has a degree from Mi. state in philsophy, and he brings that up all the time as a reason he should have a 80k/year job minimum. I tell him all the time that degree is basically usless, only good for moving on to graduate studies. Anyhow, should we just let him be, or me and my sister have been thinking of hiring a intervention specialist and give it one last good shot at trying to change his attitude on life. I love my brother, and I want to help him out, but this crap has got to stop with crying and whining to my parents, and manipulating my mother with his piss and moan stories. Then again, sometimes I think, he's 40, he's set in his ways, and things aren't going to change. Or are we just crazy to to attempt an intervention?