Yeah this is going to be stupid, since I already know what I SHOULD do, just want to see if people agree... Alright, my tattoo artist is the girlfriend of one of my best buddies. I've known him since 10th grade I believe. Anyway, they started dating in our senior year I believe. No, later in our Junior year. They were great together, he treated her wonderfully and her the same. They fell in love, she was very happy since all her previous beaus were assholes, druggies, and trash. Fast forward to about graduation time. They are still together, but he doesn't treat her nearly as well, still not badly I'd say, just fallen into a long term relationship(yes I'm young this is long term). She still does special things for him randomly, but he gets annoyed by it, not liking her to spend money on things like that. He is a cheap guy, doesn't like to go out to eat or anything, he gets that from his father. However when it comes to his truck, oh boy no amount of money is too much. Shortly after graduation I got my first tattoo, by her. We were of course acquainted by this point, but we talk a lot when I get tattooed. We have since become very good friends in our own right. Fast forward to him going away to college. Oh boy, **** hits the fan. He treats her like crap in general. Never does anything special for her, ever. He avoids her calls often and conversations often end in arguments. He breaks up with her in his second year at school(also his last). They get back together shortly afterwards. Well fast forward to now. He still treats her like ass, worse then ever I think. She takes it, and doesn't stand up for herself. She is an airhead, when she acts like one, instead of thinking it cute or correcting her, he gets angry and yells at her. Tshy was a bit of an airhead, I always just chuckled and kissed her on the forehead, but I didn't spend as much time with her of course, I still can't see it making me angry. She got a new car, he took it out to fix some overspray on the door(he used to be a detailer). Well he drove it around all day and left it with little in the way of gas and the front facia scratched to hell, on her new to her beautiful sonic blue 2002 Mustang GT. She asked him what happened that it got scratched up, and he freaked out on her. Whenever I see them together, he stands almost rigid and doesn't like her touching him. This could be a problem with displays of affection but its just not right in my eyes. He treats her with a huge double standard. If she scratched his truck at all, he'd probably break her neck. If she goes to the bar with friends he gets paranoid as all hell, but nothing wrong with him going away for the weekend and getting wasted. She has to check to make sure everything is ok with him or hide it from him. I'm certain he doesn't know that I spend nearly the amount of time I do with her. I see no reason to hide it though, I have no interest in her other then as a dear friend. The whole thing makes me angry. First that he has the balls to treat her like that, and second that she takes its. I truly believe he is just with her till something "better" comes along. In my eyes she is as good as it gets. Shes a really cool girl, very nice, very attractive, worships the ground he walks on, I just don't get it. I have been telling her for a long time to at least stand up for herself, or break up with him. She seems afraid to get back on the market . What do you guys think I should do? As of yet I haven't talked to him about it all, I think he resents me slightly anymore, because of the time I spend with her. But when its just me and him hes still the same old guy with me. I don't know, I have no life at the moment, haven't for a long time now and what little life I have angers me(Amanda and DJ being large parts of that little life). I can't stand to see her treated that way but she needs to stand up for herself.