So I have been dating this girl for going on three months. She is awesome. LIkes to kick back a few, likes to kick back and relax, likes the outdoors and knows and understands my "my garage time" .(I know this is a short time but work with me.) Here is the catch--she has a kid--age 4--boy. He has always been a mommy's boy. Dad rarley paid attention and now that everything is being finalized dad is showering his son in gifts in order to "make up" for what he (dad) dosn't have. Now he is generally a good kid, but when he is with mom and wants something and she says no he either dosn't listen or throws a tantrum. Now I understand all kids will do this but I feel the situation is amplified by dad giving him whatever he wants. Now mom dosn't want to just "win" her son over by showering him with gifts but would rather just be a mother in the typical mother ways. When me and his mom are togather with him we are very (should I say "aware") he is there. we are not clingly but we do show affection. I would say just enough to show that I do care for his mom, but not to the point where he runs to dad and says mommy has a new boyfriend or they were doing weird stuff in the kitchen. How and when (or even if i should) should I disipline him. When I do now it is more "listen to you mom" than anything and he seems to respond, not 100%, but he does.