There is the issue, or at least a major contributor. Even the owner's manual will tell you not to tow in OD. That is the #1 easiest way to nuke a 700R-4...
Tow in drive. Slow down when you're towing, remember that trailer has all the aerodynamics of a barn and moving that air 1 mph faster requires exponentially more power. 55-60 mph, let the rest of the world pass you.
Better gearing helps a ton. 4.56's will be wonderful when you're not towing...should give you a ton of snap and response you never had before. Plus it'll keep you at a better speed when towing.
Fordum, I am old school, I use a calculator to figure rpm's for various gears and tires.
speed (mph) x diff gears x OD (if applicable) x 336 (for lock up auto or manual tranny, 355 for non lock up auto) / true tire diameter.
The cool part is plenty of variations can be dropped into te mix, and I don't need to be online to do it.
Rene