Coincidentally, your engine rpm in 3rd is pretty close to what it would be in OD with 4.11's, so towing in 3rd is not only a good idea for the tranny, it is probably better all around. It sounds like you a cooler that is integrated with the radiator. With a setup like this, your transmission is basically always going to be as warm or warmer than the engine temperature. If the transmission fluid at the output of your cooler is the same as the engine coolant temperature (let's say 200 F), this is the coolest that the fluid gets: everywhere else it is hotter than 200. How much warmer, you don't know without a gauge.This is part of why it is so advantageous to put a seperate cooler after the radiator cooler. Then you can return fluid to the transmission that is cooler than your engine coolant.
But to begin with, you should never tow in OD with 33's and 3.08's. That's just asking for trouble. And you probably shouldn't even use overdrive with the right differential gears (when towing).
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