overkill is much better than being unsure
I still have the 10 bolt front, and on the last outting, i broke the longside shaft right at the taper in the diff. Kind of annoyed me, cause i had JUST put brand new steer u-joints in those axles a week before heading out. I had never had a problem in the 4 or so years of running 35's with that 10 bolt, i tried to be easy on them, because of the unknown. Even when it broke i was supprised, cause i didn't think i really gave it much hell to do that, it wasn't very loud in the truck, but people outside said it sounded like something exploded.. Ah well, live and learn
Never yet have i had any issue with the 14bff, i have tried to shave some of the lip on the bottom off, got some of it, mostly rounded it, cause laying under there with a grinder, holding it up in the air trying to grind off the metal is a real chore after awhile, it's definately a workout for the arm.
I'm still voting the OP install the 3/4 ton axles with the 4.11's and spend the money on new wheels
cheaper, and less headache.