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iwaxmyjimmy

iwaxmyjimmy

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I haven't really been too active on here for years, several members I used to smoke and joke with have passed away, and I feel bad about it. Life has definitely been a whirlwind since getting out. Chasing skirts, dealing with reprogramming my brain after going to therapy, getting toxic people out of my life, and most recently I became a dad. Save the congrats for the being a dad, I appreciate it and love the smile my little girl has, but the mom makes this very stressful. Currently drive 20 hours one weekend a month to spend maybe 6 hours with my daughter because the mom left NC and moved up to NY, which is making things very difficult. She constantly gas lights me to piss me off because I can't accept the fact, she will not use logic or reasoning. Shes refusing to work with me to get my child on my Tricare insurance, making it seem like I'm the problem when she does not understand any of the steps or documents needed to do so. It's something I'm really having to work on and deal with. But I'm closing on a home equity loan to pay a lawyer to go for custody. Learning this whole machining thing, it's fun I'm trying to learn something every day. Hopefully I can pick up a TIG welder and just spend hours in the garage practicing and ton out the world. But I miss chatting and bullshitting with guys who like the same trucks and DIY stuff I do.
 
tRustyK5 said:
Welcome back and thanks for your service!
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You've given my life advice that's stuck with me for well over 10 years through our old PM's. Yall even checked me to keep me inline when i was acting like a dumbass in my late teens/early 20s. I hope you've been doing well.
 
Welcome back to the brotherhood. Exwifes can be a super pain as I have been in your shoes with my ex and children.
 
iwaxmyjimmy said:
You've given my life advice that's stuck with me for well over 10 years through our old PM's. Yall even checked me to keep me inline when i was acting like a dumbass in my late teens/early 20s. I hope you've been doing well.
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I have been well, finally in a good place in my own head, in my work, and with my family...

I hope things improve with your ex and your daughter. Is it possible to move closer to them?
 
tRustyK5 said:
I have been well, finally in a good place in my own head, in my work, and with my family...

I hope things improve with your ex and your daughter. Is it possible to move closer to them?
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It's not the right market to sell something down south in NC and move to NY. I've owned my home for over 6 years and built a decent life for myself. Why should I have to move there when she was down here and moved up there once, she found out she was pregnant and assaulted me twice? I know it's for my daughter, but I'm being charged $250 a week in child support, and I've received 6 pictures of my daughter since finding out I'm a dad July 22nd. I've offered to buy her a 2 bedroom, 2 bath condo in my town and put it in my daughter's name. That wasn't good enough, and I had to petition for a violation of a court order because she refuses to give me the needed documents so I can go to Fort Bragg and get all her info uploaded into DEERS to get her on my tricare insurance. All that did was piss her off and make things even more difficult. I made an appointment at Ft drum in NY to get this done, because none of the places in NY accept walk ins, you set an appointment online, via the tricare website after you enter a radius and zipcode to find facilities around it. I caught her lying saying she talked to this person or that person, but she couldn't provide a point of contact or number. I literally cannot explain things to her because she doesn't take that well no matter how I go about it. I believe she's fighting this because she will lose her medicare insurance because my daughter will no longer be on medicare. So, its messy and she believes the law and rules do not apply to her. Her and I only dated for 4 months, and 2 1/2 months into it she found out she was pregnant. 3 weeks before that she was claiming it, and I had to wrestle a G43 out of her hands when she decided to try and drink everything in my house and tried to take whatever pills she could. I had to pour it all out and flush any medications I had. I really hope I can get custody because I do not even know if she's going to her checkups because of the smoke she tries to blow up my ass not know what percentiles my daughter is in for growth.
 
iwaxmyjimmy said:
It's not the right market to sell something down south in NC and move to NY. I've owned my home for over 6 years and built a decent life for myself. Why should I have to move there when she was down here and moved up there once, she found out she was pregnant and assaulted me twice? I know it's for my daughter, but I'm being charged $250 a week in child support, and I've received 6 pictures of my daughter since finding out I'm a dad July 22nd. I've offered to buy her a 2 bedroom, 2 bath condo in my town and put it in my daughter's name. That wasn't good enough, and I had to petition for a violation of a court order because she refuses to give me the needed documents so I can go to Fort Bragg and get all her info uploaded into DEERS to get her on my tricare insurance. All that did was piss her off and make things even more difficult. I made an appointment at Ft drum in NY to get this done, because none of the places in NY accept walk ins, you set an appointment online, via the tricare website after you enter a radius and zipcode to find facilities around it. I caught her lying saying she talked to this person or that person, but she couldn't provide a point of contact or number. I literally cannot explain things to her because she doesn't take that well no matter how I go about it. I believe she's fighting this because she will lose her medicare insurance because my daughter will no longer be on medicare. So, its messy and she believes the law and rules do not apply to her. Her and I only dated for 4 months, and 2 1/2 months into it she found out she was pregnant. 3 weeks before that she was claiming it, and I had to wrestle a G43 out of her hands when she decided to try and drink everything in my house and tried to take whatever pills she could. I had to pour it all out and flush any medications I had. I really hope I can get custody because I do not even know if she's going to her checkups because of the smoke she tries to blow up my ass not know what percentiles my daughter is in for growth.
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Good luck bro, sounds like your in for a long bumpy road. Try to keep a level head and pretend your daughter is always watching.
I finally got full custody of my girls in July after years of my child support money supplying her drug habits.
 
70jimmy said:
Welcome back, Hope your situation improves! Getting legal advice is always a good option
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well, it's going to cost me anyway I go about it. She pissed off the judge with things she's filed and dismissed and just her attitude in court. lucky for me there are only 2 family court judges in her county in NY and she's pissed off one of them. So my attorney thinks it should be fairly easy to win but I know she's going to smear me as best as she can. And Ive really got to work on not letting it get to me, but its stressful, frustrating as hell, and exhausting to say the least.
 
Thanks for your service. I wish you luck on your journey with your daughter. Stay strong.
 
Thanks, is it bad I’m hoping it won’t take the full loan amount so I can maybe buy a TIG welder? 8 hours out. Traffic is pretty slack, I plan it this way because DC can be rough to get through during the day
 
Welcome back, and thanks for serving!
sounds like a shitstorm ahead, but man you gotta keep your cool. Let her be the one to show ass, then it’ll work in your favor! Good luck man, just keep doing right by your daughter, it may take a while but she will see your efforts and will figure it all out eventually. Little girls need a great dad, be that dad!
 
And it’s gets even more strange, she’s now pregnant by a different dude…. Makes me feel like I’ve been trapped more than ever.
 
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