Well, I found a place with some parts, the non-NV stuff seems to be more readily available, although I wonder about quality, but that said, I think almost every NV4500 sold in the last 1 to mabey 2years doesn't have 'genuine' NV parts.
ANyhow, I returned last friday to my $1000 box-o-parts, and started assembly today.
I already had everything degreased and ready to be re-assembled. I even had my daughter throw a coat of, ahhmm, yellow, paint (it's all I had!) on the case just because I hate rust.
Went pretty smooth, I got the mainshaft all assembled, although I wish I would have known theres a difference between the 3rd gear thrust washer and the reverse gear thrust washer, there are visable differences, but very minor, of course I choose the wrong one for reverse, and when I turned to put the 3rd gear one on, it has a couple thousands smaller inner diamater and it doesn't fit, then I realised I would have to pull off the bearing behind reverse I just pressed on (hopefully without destroying it, it's $25-$30 by itself!) to get the thrust washer back off.
Anyhow, I got that all straighted out, and got the countershaft all setup with bearings, installed it, only to find the shims in the kit I have don't have the right one to put my countershaft endplay in proper spec. The kit comes with .015, .018, .024. I need a .022, if I put the 24 one on I have no endplay, and if I put the .018 one on I have 1thousands too much endplay. So I'll have to source some shims tomorrow.

So I'm dead in the water until I can get the proper size shim.
I think someone just screwed up the packaging of the shims, the mainshaft shims have a .015, 0.020 and 0.024, with those three you should be able to put it within the 0.002-.006 range they specify. I think the same three thickness countershaft shims should have been packaged, but, I got what I got. Oh well...not like I was planning on finishing today. I'm still waiting on my 5quarts of syntorq ($$$$$$$) from a mailorder place. I bought 1qt at the GM dealer, $24.50. Ouch. I'm using that for assembly lube. The 5 fill qts I'm getting from a mail-order dodge parts place that has same fluid for $16.50qt. Still pricey, but $8/qt less.