Fuel system will basically be a 3/8 supply line, and 5/16 return line. You'll need to provide approx 60 PSI to the fuel rail, and a reasonable amount of volume too.
Since you have an 89 Suburban, you're already way ahead of the game as far as the fuel system goes. You can replace your stock TBI pump with the Walboro 255 litre in-tank pump, and use the factory sending unit / fuel lines right up to where they change into stainless steel braided line then head up to the stock throttle body. You can buy fittings that convert the factory o-ring saginaw fittings over to -AN fittings, then buy a set of fittings that convert the factory fuel rail quick disconnect fittings into AN fittings as well. Then it is just a matter of running two lengths of high pressure fuel hose inbetween.
Getting the PCM flashed is not quite as bad as you may think -- I'd definitely avoid going to the dealership with it. The cheapest I've found so far is
www.pcmamerica.com who does the flashing for like 25 bucks plus shipping each way. He'll change everything you need done right off the bat, not just VATS like some places, then paying extra for other stuff.
As far as the tach goes, if you don't want to have the tach signal output modified in the PCM, you'll have to run a tach for a 4 cylinder engine. GM standardized all of their PCMs to put out the same tach signal, regardless of the number of cylinders so they could standardize their tachs as well. There are little modules you can buy that double the tach signal if you want to go that route instead.
The NP205 you'll be looking for is found in 91 Crewcab trucks in a 4l80e / NP205 or SM465 / NP205 combination. They are quite tough to find, but you can bolt the 205 up to a normal 32 spline TH400 with the normal adapter, then you have your NP205 with the reluctor ring.
Another option is to run the 4l80e. All 4l80es, 2wd or 4x4, have a reluctor ring built into the case. You can then put whatever 32 spline t-case on the back that you can get an adapter for, and run the factory cable drive off the t-case for the speedometer while using the reluctor ring in the transmission for the PCM.
As far as aftermarket support goes, I'm not really sure. I haven't done a ton of searching... I know that there are camshafts available, but at 455 ft lbs of torque at 3200 rpm stock, I'm not sure how much more power you'll need
