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How do you find time to work on your truck when you have an active social life?

we don't live together. we aren't married. she doesn't have a lot else to do when we aren't together, so she calls me a lot. i like hanging out with her, but sometimes i'm too tired or broke to do things.

it's tough to say no cause she says stuff "hanging out with you is the most fun thing i can think of."

she likes to go for drives... in my truck that gets 17 mpg.:rolleyes:

i am probably in the same situation as most of you. i don't think my situation is very unique.
 
tRustyK5 said:
I think it's all about being 'yourself' with whoever you're with. If you hide the fact that you like to work on your truck a lot you're not being honest with her. If you're up front and she is cool with it you have a keeper IMO.

I had to do it the hard way...spilling my guts during a fight about how I 'need' man time to keep my sanity and stress levels near normal. Once i explained myself, she was OK with it which made me feel even more stupid for not being more up front from day one. This was at least 10 years ago and well after we were married.

Now I just try and balance my truck time with house stuff and family stuff. I'm happy to get a few hours in here and there. As long as I see progress it's all good and then i don't mind taking care of the honey-do list.

Rene
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This sounds like my life.
 
Just do it. MAKE the time, Make the girlfriend understand. If she won't dump her cause she will never understand. I work on my truck when ever I want and can. I make time for my woman and son, but I also make time for me. If you don't make time to work on it it will NEVER get done. No point in even having one then.
 
My last g/f had a problem understanding why I wanted to work on my vehicles. She'd come over with the intentions of helping me and then she'd wind up getting mad when I spent more than a few hours on it, and go sit in the house and pout while I worked. Always made me mad.

Ask her to help. If she likes hanging out with you, why wouldn't she like working on the truck with you? If nothing else, give her a camera and get her to take pictures of what you're doing. Good documentation and she's "helping". Most women I know love to take pictures. Julie like to take pictures, but likes to help as well, so I wind up with out any pictures but I get stuff done.
 
my wife doesn't care, never has. She understands I need my alone time for wrenching outside of work, video games, friends, etc.
 
It's not about "finding" time, it's about "making" it.

It comes down to expectations. What do YOU expect to be doing on Saturday afternoon and what does SHE expect to be doing? You have to communicate ahead of time.

What helps me is a wipe-off calendar on the front of the fridge. She puts down appointments and stuff, so I know I will have the kids. I put down jobs like "cut grass" or "1.5 hours of bodywork". Then we add things like "take kids to lake" or "date night". Not only do we avoid disagreements when we are trying to do different things, we know that everything gets some time. Your situation is different, but the concept still applies.
 
If I look over and my gf looks unhappy or bored, I make a party out of it. Call over some friends and she is happy. I work on my trucks with everyone sittning around me, drinking, cooking and having fun. I know this won't work forever, but it works for now. She is happy and I continue my social life.
 
its awesome, my fiance and i have been together long enough that she knows ill go absolutely insane at a much faster rate than without wrenchin.

she can tell because i start acting like my blood sugar is low or something, she tells me to get the hell out and put the locker in, get on craigslist or something.
 
here are the options i give myself

don't have a social life
don't work on cars/trucks/house
don't sleep

i work nights, so i don't really notice not having a social life. everyone else is asleep when i get off of work. but i have gotten good at replacing parts with nothing but my maglite for light.
 
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