People make WAY more of an issue of running a truck in 4wd on dry roads than it really is. I do automotive durability testing in my job for manufacturers and part of most of the testing is locking a truck into both 4 high and low for up to 50% of the time (10,000-20,000 miles) and running around on dry roads at both high speeds and doing slow speed lock-to-lock turns. I've seen very few failures that could directly be attributed to running in a 4 locked position on dry roads.
I've owned 4 different 4wd trucks with "part-time" systems and have always put them in 4wd and left it there if the roads were questionable or spotty with snow or ice. Two times I did this were 50+ mile trips in my 2500HD pulling a 9k trailer, and having it 4wd saved me several times from jack-knifing the trailer because I turned the front tires into the slide and powered out of it...no way you could have gotten out of trouble in 2wd.
Anyway, there is no reason why you can't leave the truck in 4 high if there is periodic patches of snow and ice on the roads. If you are cruising down a road at 55 mph you just can't go "oh look, some snow ahead so slip it into 4wd".......by the time you do this it's too late.
I think another thing is that most people are thinking of only using 4wd to not get stuck. I completely agree that on just icy or light snow roads you don't need 4wd to actually move, but it greatly helps handling and keeps the rear end from fish-tailing.
Just a couple weeks ago I took my dedicated trail rig for a quick spin down the road to check everything out and didn't realize until a couple miles that it was in 4 hi (kids were playing in it and had hit the shifter), even with a lockers front and rear. I did notice something slightly off, but with a welded rear diff and 10 psi in the 40" TSL's it always feels weird on the road.
I've owned 4 different 4wd trucks with "part-time" systems and have always put them in 4wd and left it there if the roads were questionable or spotty with snow or ice. Two times I did this were 50+ mile trips in my 2500HD pulling a 9k trailer, and having it 4wd saved me several times from jack-knifing the trailer because I turned the front tires into the slide and powered out of it...no way you could have gotten out of trouble in 2wd.
Anyway, there is no reason why you can't leave the truck in 4 high if there is periodic patches of snow and ice on the roads. If you are cruising down a road at 55 mph you just can't go "oh look, some snow ahead so slip it into 4wd".......by the time you do this it's too late.
I think another thing is that most people are thinking of only using 4wd to not get stuck. I completely agree that on just icy or light snow roads you don't need 4wd to actually move, but it greatly helps handling and keeps the rear end from fish-tailing.
Just a couple weeks ago I took my dedicated trail rig for a quick spin down the road to check everything out and didn't realize until a couple miles that it was in 4 hi (kids were playing in it and had hit the shifter), even with a lockers front and rear. I did notice something slightly off, but with a welded rear diff and 10 psi in the 40" TSL's it always feels weird on the road.



You need to fix your truck.......or quit making up stories.......seriously, the issues you describe above are no where close to what happens in the real world on a properly setup truck (ie. matching tires and gear ratios).