personal preference really.
if its not a towed rig, and you have to drive it to the trails, I personally start at RPM's at highway speed (55,60, or 65mph depending.) and work backwards. Im a bit of a tree hugging hippy so I cruise at 55mph unless I'm in a crunch (all the time, even in my daily driver).
From there you plug in your transmission final gear 1:1 or overdrive, tire size,
last part, pick an RPM you're ok with. My diesel gets its bet highway mileage around 1800 rpm, so I choose 1800-2000 as my acceptable highway range. then plug and chug...
http://www.csgnetwork.com/multirpmcalc.html
36in tires, non overdrive, at 60mph, with 4.56 gears, will run at 2554 rpm. which isn't too hateful if you don't care about mpg, and can keep it from overheating. and a 22.5:1 crawl ratio.
3.73's are more what I would go with personally, with a tree hugger friendly 2090 rpm. And given your first post indicating it wont be used for heavy wheeling. might be the better real world choice. crawl ratio 18.4:1
4.11's would put you at 2302 rpm. a nice balance between the two. and would give a satisfying boost to your tire spinning, "push back in the seat" feeling. crawl ratio 20.3:1
remember your desire to spin tires not withstanding, I wheeled just fine with 33in tires a 145hp non-turbo diesel, 3.08 gears, and drove it daily. crawl ratio was 19.8:1 And if I ever really felt the need to spin the tires, Id just put it in 4lo with the front hubs unlocked
the only thing i needed more of on the trail was more gear to climb rocks, but mud, stream crossings, trails, camping, etc. was never an issue, and I got 22mpg driving to and from the trails. 500 mile range on a single tank before factoring in jerry cans??? yes please
