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Well I usually try just a little humor as a tool for coping with things that are beyond my control. I don't know if you can muster any, but I hope like hell things improve regardless of how you manage to maintain your sanity!


Tell her that she has a dam "greenie" rooting for her!

At least that's what we called Coloradans when I lived in Casper.
 
6872xtc said:
Well I usually try just a little humor as a tool for coping with things that are beyond my control. I don't know if you can muster any, but I hope like hell things improve regardless of how you manage to maintain your sanity!


Tell her that she has a dam "greenie" rooting for her!

At least that's what we called Coloradans when I lived in Casper.
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Thanks man appreciate it, honestly I feel like my mood is up and down right now.......depression? Having to watch her deal with all this gets me down so bad I would do anything in the world to make her better and make this all go away
 
Sounds like a normal reaction to me. It will make your mind mull over so much trying to find SOME way to find a resolution. Keep your faith as strong as it is, and be there for her. That's all I know to tell you. There may be times when you feel like the world is against you, which I believe is natural as well. I think that it can be very difficult to not take this as an unfair thing for her and you as well. But you already have a good perspective on this.
 
WyoSquareMan said:
Thanks man appreciate it, honestly I feel like my mood is up and down right now.......depression? Having to watch her deal with all this gets me down so bad I would do anything in the world to make her better and make this all go away
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Not sure what new to add, but we're all still pulling for ya. :thumb:
 
6872xtc said:
Sounds like a normal reaction to me. It will make your mind mull over so much trying to find SOME way to find a resolution. Keep your faith as strong as it is, and be there for her. That's all I know to tell you. There may be times when you feel like the world is against you, which I believe is natural as well. I think that it can be very difficult to not take this as an unfair thing for her and you as well. But you already have a good perspective on this.
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This is quoted for truth...
Having been through some very difficult to deal with emotionally situations I can vouch for it being "normal" to feel so depressed you'd do anything to make it go away...you feel helpless and distraught,and can't seem to think of anything else long enough to give your mind a rest from dealing with it..your moods swing wild,and you'll be tempted to do things you never would normally..

This often results in sleep disorders,either you cant sleep,or you want to lie in bed and wish the world away..your stomach revolts and you can get ulcers from the constant worry,and overall,it can sap all your physical strength after awhile..

I had a doctor who thought all I needed was some prozac,and other anti-depressants and I tried that route,when my mother was facing a slow demise from COPD and congestive heart failure,and I had to be home with her 24/7..after watching my dad lie in bed for several years due to parkinsons before he passed in 2000 was bad enough,but the same year my mom was diagnosed,and it was 13 long years of depression,anxiety and stress that I thought would kill me,before she passed 3 years ago...

--for the most part I felt much worse after using the pills only after a week--they told me oh,it'll be at least 2 weeks before enough "builds up" in your system to start working--BS!--I was having nightmares,I'd stay awake all night just to avoid any,and on top of being scared out of my skin most of the time,at other times I just felt dead inside,a zhombie with NO emotions at all,and my mood would swing like a pendulum from one extreme to the other,after only 4 days use--(some of this may have been increased due to me having a steriod injection for back pain--at least thats what my doctor blamed it on.)...

I felt like crap long after I took those pills,and I may be a rare case,but I'd reccomend no one try taking the "medicated" route to deal with the stress and distress of seeing anyone you love suffering..

If any doctor offers you any,I would think long and hard before using any--they say they are not addictive,but if not,why was I told NOT to stop taking them suddenly,but to taper off the dosage little by little ,after several days ?.or else face "withdrawl" like I did..sound like addiction to me...

I'm not telling you what to do,every person handles things differently..but I have been told by several other people I know that antidepressants are commonly prescribed to a care giver or anyone under extreme emotional distress...it's best to try your best to deal with your situation with a clear head..even if it doesn't feel that way..
 
diesel4me said:
This is quoted for truth...
Having been through some very difficult to deal with emotionally situations I can vouch for it being "normal" to feel so depressed you'd do anything to make it go away...you feel helpless and distraught,and can't seem to think of anything else long enough to give your mind a rest from dealing with it..your moods swing wild,and you'll be tempted to do things you never would normally..

This often results in sleep disorders,either you cant sleep,or you want to lie in bed and wish the world away..your stomach revolts and you can get ulcers from the constant worry,and overall,it can sap all your physical strength after awhile..

I had a doctor who thought all I needed was some prozac,and other anti-depressants and I tried that route,when my mother was facing a slow demise from COPD and congestive heart failure,and I had to be home with her 24/7..after watching my dad lie in bed for several years due to parkinsons before he passed in 2000 was bad enough,but the same year my mom was diagnosed,and it was 13 long years of depression,anxiety and stress that I thought would kill me,before she passed 3 years ago...

--for the most part I felt much worse after using the pills only after a week--they told me oh,it'll be at least 2 weeks before enough "builds up" in your system to start working--BS!--I was having nightmares,I'd stay awake all night just to avoid any,and on top of being scared out of my skin most of the time,at other times I just felt dead inside,a zhombie with NO emotions at all,and my mood would swing like a pendulum from one extreme to the other,after only 4 days use--(some of this may have been increased due to me having a steriod injection for back pain--at least thats what my doctor blamed it on.)...

I felt like crap long after I took those pills,and I may be a rare case,but I'd reccomend no one try taking the "medicated" route to deal with the stress and distress of seeing anyone you love suffering..

If any doctor offers you any,I would think long and hard before using any--they say they are not addictive,but if not,why was I told NOT to stop taking them suddenly,but to taper off the dosage little by little ,after several days ?.or else face "withdrawl" like I did..sound like addiction to me...

I'm not telling you what to do,every person handles things differently..but I have been told by several other people I know that antidepressants are commonly prescribed to a care giver or anyone under extreme emotional distress...it's best to try your best to deal with your situation with a clear head..even if it doesn't feel that way..
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I don't plan on the medicated route to deal with this, I've never liked the idea of anti depressants and things of the like.

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, I send you my prayers
 
WyoSquareMan said:
I don't plan on the medicated route to deal with this, I've never liked the idea of anti depressants and things of the like.

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, I send you my prayers
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I never liked the idea of taking pills to "cope" with a difficult situation either,but things got bad enough I was coaxed into doing so by the doctor...(who likely gets a kickback from prescribing such pills no doubt )..that is why after only less than a week of taking them,I said screw this--I was better off "sober"...
I also drank to easy my mind,that was another mistake--it only aggravated my ulcer and degree of anger...

Your prayers are appreciated,but my situation has "improved" since my folks passed on,now I have other hurdles to conquer,after facing "large" changes in life without them here...

I pray that things go well for you both...
 
diesel4me said:
I never liked the idea of taking pills to "cope" with a difficult situation either,but things got bad enough I was coaxed into doing so by the doctor...(who likely gets a kickback from prescribing such pills no doubt )..that is why after only less than a week of taking them,I said screw this--I was better off "sober"...
I also drank to easy my mind,that was another mistake--it only aggravated my ulcer and degree of anger...

Your prayers are appreciated,but my situation has "improved" since my folks passed on,now I have other hurdles to conquer,after facing "large" changes in life without them here...

I pray that things go well for you both...
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I can understand that, I didn't mean to imply anything. Unfortunately I'm sure doctors push meds on people for personal gain all too often.
I hope you know your input really is incredibly appreciated. Best wishes to you and your family
 
Laying in bed alone without the wife just don't feel right, cancer is trying to steal my wife from me....the night leaves me with nothing but bad habits to comfort me, I guess this is why I try to stay busy idle time is my worst enemy
 
WyoSquareMan said:
Laying in bed alone without the wife just don't feel right, cancer is trying to steal my wife from me....the night leaves me with nothing but bad habits to comfort me, I guess this is why I try to stay busy idle time is my worst enemy
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Wish I had some wonderful words to speak. But know that our thoughts and prayers are still over you. That's about all the encouragement I can figure out right now. :/

You do have enough truck projects to keep ya busy, right? :crazy:
 
campfire said:
Wish I had some wonderful words to speak. But know that our thoughts and prayers are still over you. That's about all the encouragement I can figure out right now. :/

You do have enough truck projects to keep ya busy, right? :crazy:
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Yea I do, just not the money or solid time right now to get it done
 
WyoSquareMan said:
Laying in bed alone without the wife just don't feel right, cancer is trying to steal my wife from me....the night leaves me with nothing but bad habits to comfort me, I guess this is why I try to stay busy idle time is my worst enemy
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WyoSquareMan said:
Yea I do, just not the money or solid time right now to get it done
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I feel ya brother. My wife just got back from her week of treatment, tests and appointments. I'll PM you my number if you want to talk, I work graveyard so I'm up all night...
 
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