not a problem man, we all gotta learn sometime, i learned most of my stuff by wrenching on my uncles pit crew when he was drag racing since i was about... 9 year old?? then researching everything like a mad man since then.
as for the 250 vs 254, in all honesty, i would make a complete list of all the engine components that are relevent, (see my previous posts for a small list) then call up comp cams cam help, and have them give a professional recomendation. when it comes to cams, they really are the experts and would give the best advice. in my opinion either one would work. maybe the 254 if your heads are stock, because the low lift flow on those ports leaves quite a bit to be desired. the slightly higher lift on the 254 vs the 250 wouldnt hurt gas mileage alot, but would open up the rpm band of the engine a bit by allowing more airflow at the higher lift rate.
and yes, i would strongly recomend the complete kit. you should NEVER mismatch cams and lifters for instance. so far as if a cam and lifters are removed and reinstalled, they should be marked so everything goes back in the exact same pairing.
so if you are replacing the cam, you should get at the very least the cam and lifter kit, but its a great idea to also get the matched springs to take advantage of the more aggressive approach and departure angles and higher lift the new cam brings to the table.
and you might be surprised to know im only 23, and to be honest, my knowledge really only extends to the sbc. im currently learning about diesels, but when it comes to the rest of the drivetrain, or bodywork, i am a novice and rely on all the people here at the forum myself.