Tim, I kinda agree with you here, on many points- since I myself have an echobit flip, I cannot vouch for towing on ORD's flip.
I do recall the towing issues that Grim Reaper had (and his near death experience) and that has always stuck with me. I only had my K5 as a tow vehicle, so I had to tow with it- I got a 7700k rated tadem axle trailer, with a 6" drop hitch to make everything level, and loaded it up with approximately 350-400 lbs of tongue weight, as recommended.
Springs were stock springs, just with the echobit flip. Front springs were pretty stiff.
For people to say that the springs arent soft, I dunno, maybe it was just mine. Even under normal driving, hitting bumps make the rear springs move a lot. I can see it even in my own reflection driving over a speed bump.
In regards to towing, what a white nuckle experience- Every bump in the road, caused my rear end to move up and down- execentuated (sp?) by the tongue weight. This wouldnt have been so bad, but I also have a bit of bump steer- So as the end moved differently than the front, it would cause bump steer. Somtimes it got so uncontrollable, that I thought I was gonna loose it from sway- Since even a little sway of the front truck (since I have no rear sway bars, the rear of the truck could tilt a littlr from left to right. the number of times I reached for the emergency trailer brake just to straighten out.... I towed like this several times, Each time believing that it had to be this whole "short wheel base, k5 suck at towing" etc etc....
Of course, after seeing so many pathfinders, x5's and troopers tow the same sized trailer and the same loads without issues- I started looking at why they could do it and I couldnt- my only conclusion was that:
IFS and SFA's dont really matter too much- IFS wins by a little, since it isnt as prone to bump steer and handling is better.
Rear IFS and SF in the rear, IFS acutally wins by a little as well, as independent road variations on one side dont really transfer to the other- but thats not a good comparison point either.
What I did find is in most of these other vehicles-
1. mostly stock
2. stock comes with rear sway bars
and the most important thing I found is, that the effective spring rates ar ematched- going over a bump with the front of the truck is the same as going over a bump with the rear- It doesnt travel 1" in the front and 3 inches in the rear. that is the single biggest issue with a shackle flip. In my case, the sway bar in the front, plus a stiffer spring yielded in more travel in the rear of the truck than there shoulda been.
Here are some solutions: Air bag. if you can get one to reach long enough this helps a lot.
Helper Spring shocks- These add load carrying capacity by making your shock also have a coil over spring- its actual effectiveness i cannot verify.
Weight distribution/anti sway bars- These are what i went with, and towing has been night and day-. What used to be a white nuckle 50mph in the right lane.. I can now do 80mph and be in total control. I can now cruise nicely at 65mph, one handed, with semi's passing me, and i dont feel like im being pushed around or anything.
You can get higher WD bars, and this may help your towing dramatically. Try towing for like 20 miles with your current setup. Then if you can, borrow a buddies trailer/WD setup and see how ya feel.
oh yeah, back to that whole shackle over/under thing- I dont think a 21000 lb truck design qualifies in the same field- Their spring packs arent the same as ours, and was designed to work with that design.