Jesus God in heaven, don't let me jinx this, but I might have gotten it. TL/DR, I connected the aftermarket VSS to the ECM by locating and cutting wires very close to the ECM in the passenger footwell / dash area
As mentioned above, the 2 diagrams of the ECM (above) indicate 2 sections of cavities. One large plug of wires goes into each cavity/receptacle. The one cavity I needed, A10 for circuit 437 (vehicle speed sensor), is located in the cavity section / plug receptacle located toward the forward of the vehicle (and the plug plugs into the outside of the ECM, meaning the passenger side of the vehicle).
So while I'm laying down in the passenger side footwell looking up at it, I could see the larger cavity section / plug receptacle but could not see the smaller cavity section
/ plug receptacle which is located toward the forward of the vehicle and therefore is blocked from vision by the air conditioner fan box etc.
I was able to locate (by feel and sticking my cell phone camera up in the area) the bank of wires that plug into the smaller cavity section / plug receptacle. Based on the diagram, I was pretty sure I had found the brown wire corresponding to the vehicle speed sensor (cavity A10/circuit 437). I therefore cut that wire and spliced in the signal from the aftermarket VSS. The other wire from the aftermarket VSS I spliced into wire 450, identified as "system return." I thought that sounded like a ground.
After that, the vehicle ran fine but the Check Engine Light (CEL) was totally dead and did not even illuminate when the vehicle was started. So that was bad.
I then re-connected wire 450 ("system return") wire and connected the other wire from the aftermarket VSS to what I believe is a ground. It's a bolt that goes through the body of the vehicle and holds the speedometer cable on the underside. I know that this was an awesome time to learn that my automotive test light was non-functional... **** me!!
At any rate, after reconnecting wire 450 and connecting the other aftermarket VSS wire to a ground, the CEL illuminated at startup as it supposed to, and then during a quick test drive the CEL did not pop on. I did not have time to do an extensive test drive, but I'm cautiously, cautiously, very ****ing cautiously optimistic that leaving wire 450 reconnected and simply connecting one wire from the aftermarket VSS to the brown wire/cavity A10/circuit 437 and the other wire from the aftermarket VSS to any ground on the vehicle is the correct solution.
Thank you all for your help and your patience with my idiotic questions. Surprised to note that no matter how hard I looked at the wires behind the speedometer area, I could not find that brown wire for cavity A10/circuit 437. I don't remember what in the world my buddy & I did with it when I installed that dash and autometer gauges. It should be sitting back there, capped off or just unused but I could not find it despite looking for a very, very long time.
So Californians, don't mess with the dash. Don't mess with the speedometer. Whatever you do, don't mess with the vehicle speed sensor!