Hang tough dude. We'll get through it.
Do you have a meter or test light?
If so, then one step at a time. When everything is right but it doesn't work, thats when they call me in. You gotta verify every step, even if you know its right.
First, does your relays have the right numbers on the terminals? If not, are they arraigned like the drawing on post 34?
We have to be sure we are on the same page as to which terminals are which.
I'm gonna make a bunch of assumptions here, if one of them is wrong, just let me know.
Assuming that you can tell which terminal is which, and you have a meter or test light, check for power on pins 87 of both relays.
Hit the window switch up and down. You should continue to see power on both pins.
If so, then put the light or meter on pin 30 of either relay. Hit up and down.
You should see power in one direction on one relay.
Put the probe on the other pin 30. You should see power in the opposite direction.
Then, put one probe, or the ground clamp of the test light to a hot wire and put the other on pin 87A of one relay.
You are testing for a ground here.
You should see 12 volts or the light should light.
Test both 87As while going up and down with the switch.
You should see ground all the time.
Then, put the probe on pin 30. You should see ground on both pin 30s on both relays.
On each relay, the ground should go away in one direction, opposite on each relay.
By this time, one of those tests should have failed. If not, then make sure the two motor wires are on pins 30.
NOTE, from what I hear, if you are trying to do this to the back tailgate window, it will not work, but the doors should do fine.
Let me know what you find.
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